A Sex Guide For Men and Women


We deal with common sexual problems and issues, which you can read about by clicking on the links below.

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Masturbation, Fellatio, Cunnilingus

Holding the penis during masturbation or fellatio helps the man to become erect, if necessary. This is often an assistance, especially when the man feels any nervousness.

The hand which has helped the penis to erection at the beginning of the oral act, by any of the usual titillations of moistened palm or fingertips, is then simply left in place throughout the act, the fist forming a sort of “sword-guard” to prevent too deep an entry into the woman’s mouth.

If the man feels any shame about the woman’s hand helping or holding him in this way, during an act in which he is ostensibly dominating her, he may take pride rather than consolation in the thought that the hand is really necessary to protect the woman from his virile strength and the length of his penis.

In the same way, and for the same reason, the man can also hold his penis in his own fist during oral entry in fellatio, if he is already erect, thus protecting the woman from his thrusts and energy.

 Whichever of the partners does this, it has the added and very important advantage of striking or causing pressure against the man’s mons pubis, by resisting the drive of his hips with the flesh of the enclosing fist.

In oral sex, the woman can hardly accept striking of the man’s pubis against her lips and teeth. Pubic pressure or striking of this kind is the normal action for both partners in vaginal intercourse, when violently engaged, the man driving deeply in.

His pubis then strikes against the woman’s pelvic bones through the flesh and hair of her own pubis, or vulva (or buttocks, in intercourse from behind thus also exciting and gripping her clitoris in face-to-face sex positions, and in all cases exciting her passion and his own, too, in a physical way.

This is likewise true during male masturbation, the man sometimes will, if he can, tear the woman’s hand away, so that he may enter her mouth and upper throat deeply at his final thrust; or the woman may simply have removed her hand from his penis some time before, and is taking it all orally when the man’s orgasm comes. In such situations, the man really appreciates the woman being willing to swallow the semen at the moment of ejaculation.

Sometimes the case that the man must masturbate his own penis, generally by means of his moistened palm rubbing the shaft or rotating on the glans penis, then simply presenting the penis to the woman’s vagina or mouth, and pressing inward, when he feels his orgasm approaching.

male sexual anatomyBoth these quasi-masturbatory manoeuvres have their use and may be necessary when the woman, for reasons of health, cannot engage in vigorous intercourse or oral sex, but nevertheless very much wants to “satisfy her man.”

When it is necessary for the man to be masturbated in part, whether by the woman or by himself, as a preliminary to ejaculation in her vagina or mouth, what he is really trying to do is not so much to arrive at orgasm for his own pleasure, as to prove to the woman, by means of his achieved ejaculation, the validity of her self-image as a woman, and to allow her to express and fulfill the love toward him that makes her wish to act out her sexual role even at such a time.

Women understand, of course, that no man can have an erection at will and especially not at moments of crisis or anxiety.

But women can still be hurt by this, if they see it as proof of the undesirability and inadequacy of their own bodies. This is why a man needs to know how about making a woman fulfilled – i.e. knowing how to make a woman orgasm easily and reliably – that really is part of being a man. Part of the basic toolkit, as it were!

In the same way, what really hurts a woman in a man’s actual impotence is not her sexual starvation, but the insult to her femininity! The penis may be mightier than the sword, but the possession of a penis is sometimes more of a problem than a privilege.

The satisfaction of the woman during the man’s erotic satisfaction in oral sex is fortunately not always a problem. Cunnilingus gives emotional pleasure to the man, while the woman receives the specifically genital excitement or satisfaction. In the same way, in fellatio, it is also often possible for the supine man to reach from behind between the buttocks or thighs of the woman, who is perhaps kneeling over him or sitting at his side, facing his knees, and to titillate her clitoris while she fellates him, so that they both may reach orgasm together or thereabouts.

If the man’s head and torso are high up over the woman’s head, and his hands far from her genitals, he may only be able to reach her breasts, the man’s hands being turned to face and grip them, and to play with her nipples. Two positions for oral sex nevertheless exist in which the woman can be very satisfactorily excited genitally by the man, at the same time, and brought to orgasm.

Where the man kneels with the woman kneeling on all fours on her hands and knees facing him, to fellate him, her head and body being turned somewhat to one side; the man can then bend forward at that same side, over the woman’s back, to reach her genitals with his hands.

This he can do either by reaching up underneath her body, pausing at her breasts, or down from between her thighs in back; or if he has long arms with both hands simultaneously, one from above and behind, and the other from below and in front. He can, in this way, excite her vaginal opening or her clitoris, or both together with his two facing hands, while giving her oral pleasure at the same time.

The woman can seldom engage in any fellatio motions of her head in this position (though she is, of course, quite free to perform any desired manoeuvres of her lips and tongue), for the man’s torso and shoulders will generally immobilize her head as he bends over her back to reach her genitals with his hands.

Another sex position, which is in fact one of the most common for irrumation, is that in which the woman lies back on the bed, or sits up partly with her head supported on a pillow. and the man straddles her chest, with his knees supporting him on the bed just under each of the woman’s armpits, while he stimulates her.

couple making loveAs the man’s arms will be halfway up the head of the bed or against the wall. supporting his torso (or he may be pressing against the head of the bed with his chest and shoulders), he cannot reach the woman’s genitals with his hands. However, without disturbing the support of his knees under the woman’s armpits.

He can – if his legs are long, and her torso rather short – so bring his lower legs and feet diagonally together over her belly, that both his big toes lie between the lips of the woman’s vulva, and she can rub herself on these, while he wriggles them helpfully, simultaneously masturbating her.

In a famous Japanese print, a man is shown tickling the genitals of a woman across the table from him, by means of his foot and toe, unseen by the other people at the table with them. This is of course the real meaning and implication of the Western seduction game or technique of under-the-table “footsie,” though it is seldom taken so unequivocally far.

Before leaving the subject of the genital excitement of the woman by the man, during irrumation, one other unusual position should be mentioned. In this the woman simply lies on her back across a bed, or at the edge of a sofa or the back seat of an automobile, with her head banging down backwards over the edge, and her mouth open, while the man kneels on the floor before her face and pleasures her – upside-down, as it were.

The man can then easily bend or reach forward to titillate the woman’s clitoris and vagina with his fingers, with a complete freedom allowed by almost no other position for masturbation, irrumation or fellatio.