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After three or four weeks of the above control you can seek to localize the contraction even further. Now try to squeeze in the entrance to the vagina without contracting the anus. As there is some intermingling of the muscle fibers of the two areas, this new localization of control will not be one hundred percent attainable, but it's so nearly possible that only minor sensations in the anal muscles need to be felt. Indeed, with full concentration given to contraction of the gripping vaginal muscles you should be oblivious to any minor sensations of contraction in the anus.
Following three or four weeks of controlled squeezing of the entrance to the vagina, the next stage is simultaneously to apply similar mind-muscle control to the deeper walls of the vaginal passage. Remember that the action of these levator muscles is to draw in and up. The feeling is unmistakable and easily attained in the anus, but only a minority of women are familiar with the feeling in the vagina. This level of sexual control will be invaluable enhancing sex in different sex positions.
You can give the sphincter and levator something to grip by inserting a finger or fingers into the vagina - just a little way to feel the grip of the sphincter, but deeper to feel the milking action of the levator.
A further development of control is to contract the walls of the vaginal passage (levator) separately from the entrance (sphincter). The latter is the more easily squeezed of the two sets of muscles and, because of the distribution, of sensitive nerve endings in the area, the more marked of the two sensations.
A very subtle and advanced degree of control is that of the woman who can contract and relax her clitoral muscles. These are influenced to some degree by the general contraction of the pelvic floor that was described above but it is possible for some women to develop localized control of the clitoris. It contains a concentrated mass of extremely sensitive nerve ends and acts as the key to triggering off and experiencing orgasm. Contraction of the vaginal muscles helps to draw it down toward the penis during intercourse and thus receive its friction. Drawing it down through conscious control is an advanced skill worth cultivating.
In sum, the progressive sequence of practice is: contraction of the vaginal entrance and the anal muscles together; contraction of the vaginal entrance only; contraction of the vaginal entrance and the deeper vaginal walls together; contraction of the deeper vaginal walls only; contraction of the clitoral muscles only.
Advanced controls may take some months to achieve. But they are neuromuscular skills and once learned-like such other neuromuscular skills as walking upright, riding a bicycle, or driving a car-will become a woman's possession for life. Indeed, through time the gripping and drawing-in action of. the vaginal muscles., will become automatic during intercourse, to the lasting improvement of sexual efficiency and sexual pleasure.
Some women readers will be dismayed by the mildness of the squeezing sensation in, the vagina compared with the more vigorous action of the fitter and stronger muscles surrounding the anus. But progress will soon be made. Though the vaginal muscles are not normally as strongly developed as those of the anus, a worthwhile degree of contraction is quite practical.
Involuntary spasms can show the contractile power of these muscles. In vaginismus involuntary and powerful contractions of the vaginal muscles occur spasmodically and painfully.
APPLICATIONS
The significance of this one technique of sexual fitness - vaginal contraction - is great. But what counts is converting the instructions into practical experience. Remember that muscle controls depend on the "feel" of the action-which means that regular practice is essential at the training stage.
There are several applications of the controls.
To heighten the pleasure of both partners during intercourse, through the squeezing and drawing in of the penis.
Control of the muscles that surround the opening to the vagina enables a woman to suck in and squeeze the penis on its entry. When the penis has deeply penetrated, these muscles firmly clasp the root of the organ, thus retaining the blood in the spongy erectile tissues. Thus the male's virility is aided and his feelings of manhood boosted by the intensified sensations of erection. At the same time the friction against the sensitive nerve endings grouped at the entrance to the vagina increases the woman's pleasure. Further, the contraction pulls down the extremely sensitive glans of the clitoris toward the penis and facilitates contact with it. The deeper muscles of the vaginal walls both squeeze and knead the penis in a kind of milking action to which any man will ecstatically respond.
Women are often puzzled to learn that many men masturbate regularly. One likely reason for this is that self-gratification, with its superior friction from the hand, is more pleasurable than intercourse with a woman whose vagina is slack and affords little pressure on the penis. But the vagina can act like a hand, kneading and massaging.
To counter any slackness of the vaginal muscles caused by the stretching effects of childbirth. In labor women need to efficiently contract and relax the pelvic muscles. The strengthening and toning, plus the improved body-mind rapport developed by the controls, will be of value here. There is also the more important application in countering any slackness of the vaginal muscles caused by the stretching effects of childbirth. The other way of countering and correcting vaginal slackness caused by childbirth is through the muscle controls described, which if practiced daily until mastered will strengthen and tone up the vaginal muscles so that they firmly grip the penis during intercourse.
Men are more likely to be aware of the difference than women. The inside walls of the vagina are somewhat lacking in sensitive nerve ends, which may be disappointing to women who expect voluptuous sensations from sexual intercourse inside the vagina. The main sensitivity is in the bulbs at the entrance to the vagina and in the external vulva, especially in the clitoris. These, as was shown earlier, are influenced to some extent by constricting the vaginal muscles, but the female's sexual response is more generalized than that of the male, which centers almost entirely on his sexual organ and in particular its glans.
To hold the penis in the vagina longer following ejaculation and when the man has erection problems. When the man achieves only a partial erection the woman can use muscle control to grip and retain the male organ in the vagina. This is further aided by bringing the legs together after entry. The muscular collar surrounding the entrance to the vagina can squeeze in on the root of the penis and also draw it in.
A more common potency problem is controlling rapid ejaculation. The distressing effects of this can be mitigated by holding the penis in the vagina for some time after ejaculation. If the root of the penis is gripped firmly, as by a curled finger, blood drains from the penis more slowly than normally following ejaculation, and intercourse can be continued for a short time.
The woman who wishes to prolong the intimacy of union can also employ the muscle control for that purpose. Many women, and also men, find the ending of intercourse too abrupt and being able to lie together in a locked embrace is a source of great pleasure and emotional satisfaction and a worthy postlude to coition. This time is sometimes referred to as the "afterglow."
To hold in seminal fluid when conception is desired.
If conception is sought, the sucking-in action of the deeper vaginal muscles keeps the discharge of semen far up the vaginal passage at the entrance to the cervix, a position that increases the chances of a sperm meeting up with the female ovum. Normally the deeper vaginal muscles relax and the fluid is expelled from the vagina.
There is a contrasting psychological benefit concerned with the ability to let go from contraction and relax the muscles of the vaginal entrance. Women who feel fearful or embarrassed about sex tend to tense their muscles involuntarily before intromission. Here the ability to relax the muscles and receive the penis will prove, through the body-mind reciprocity, a counter to inhibitory feelings.
Through time the control will become habitual during intercourse and the mind is then liberated from the necessity of sending signals to the pelvis - there is an intermediate stage where almost no conscious direction is called for.
Too successful an application of the control can bring on rapid ejaculation in the male, not usually desirable. But only a minority of women are likely to face this problem, one easily resolved by reducing the pressure.
The important thing in learning the control is to become aware of the muscles involved, then to cultivate this neuromuscular skill until it becomes second nature. With practice the woman is hardly aware of employing the control. The action is as natural as kissing or caressing. Intercourse then becomes a supreme art as the subconscious finally takes over direction of the muscles.
Whatever her age and looks, the woman with highly cultivated sex muscles feels "all woman." And her skills will heighten her mate's response so that he feels and is correspondingly more manly and virile.
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